Wednesday, June 27, 2007
Hiding and Seeking - 9:09 PM
Recently, I've took to rewatching Lihong's 'Heroes of the Earth' Concert DVD again. I made Ruoxi bring it to me from NYC, and I made Kai watch it with me. Uh-hum, what to do... I'm a very passionate, ...and obsessive person like that. :PWhile I was watching the DVD, I verbally dished out Lihong's resume... Dad's a doctor, Brothers went to Yale and MIT, graduated from the highly pretigious Williams College, and then a Jazz Masters at Berklee... plays the piano, violin, drums, guitar, PLUS an array of chinese instruments with finesse (i.e. got training wannnn, not sui sui bian bian wannnn), subtley dropping hints that he's a prodigy and not a teeny-booper musician... Wow. I amaze myself sometimes.... I see a career in Sales in my future... Oh, and did I mention that he's 31 already but still looks super young and super cute?
And then, midway I caught myself. Was I going overboard? Was that really necessary? Should I shut up? After all, it was Kai's first encounter with Lihong, and I wanted to leave a good impression. But, why should she care? I guess, more importantly, I should be asking myself, WHY DO I CARE WHAT SHE THINKS? OH well, but at least I let her know that she OUGHT to be impressed.
And its only a singer whom ALREADY millions adore!
Do we really need a bountiful amount of positive things to justify our adoration/devotion/worshipping of a certain thing or person? Why do we crave the approval of someone, and then when they don't, say 'I DON'T CARE WHAT YOU THINK, I LIKE HIM!'? Geez, seriously, if Kai didn't say 'oh yeah he's pretty good', I would get pretty pissed... even if its half hearted, I would be happy... and TRUST ME, it would be best for you not to say nasty things about people I like in front of me... thats common courtesy, you know?
I think its amazing how many good things we can find to say about certain things/people, when we want people to think that they are great too. All of a sudden, we only focus on the good parts, and seem to diminish the bad parts (not that lihong has ANY faults). I'm not just talking about people here, what about goods and services?
I cannot recall how many times I've proclaimed 'XX MY HAIRDRESSER IS AMAZING!!!! HE'S PERFECT FOR ME, AND HE TOTALLY GETS ME!!! I LOVE HIM TO DEATH AND WILL GO TO NO OTHER!!', and then I mumble an unforgiving 'but you probably wont like him if he's not your style'. Oops.
And so I can totally imagine myself introducing a prospective husband to my family or something serious like that. ... 'Hello Pa, Ma, this is XXX, he is a Stanford graduate and got his MBA from Harvard, and he's earning like, NOT ALOT LAAA... only $1 million a year, not including bonus, AFTER TAX ALREADY...and he lives in a penthouse, and drives a Jaguar...oh but he was also jailed for fraud, has anger management issues, has 6 toes, and 5 kids from 3 different women, but dont worry cos thats ALLLLL in the past... I think they will faint sooner than the day I say I do will arrive.
And you know something? I've discovered something rather commonly said, but rather disturbing to me... I've heard of Chinese friends (of friends) who dated people of other races in Singapore (meaning Malays and Indians la). The first thing they would say is 'But he is very fair...looks like Chinese'
Eh? I don't know about you, but to me, if you made up your mind to be with someone regardless of race or religion, I would think that skin color is the last thing on your mind, cos thats already been set in stone. Does it have anything to do with how much you like that person? Instead of saying how nice that person is, you say 'don't worry he's very fair?' Come on, you can do better than that! What do you mean by DON'T WORRY? I'm not worrying about the skin color, but I worry about how you feel about him! But neverthless, I understand that its just another way of seeking approval. But seriously, I wouldn't care. That person can be black, white, red, blue, green, yellow... it shouldn't have an impact on your decision once you have made it.
Or even funnier, they would say 'Oh, but he's not very religious. He eats pork.'...
Woah. Now wait a minute. Is that GOOD?? Am I supposed to applaude the liberalism and say 'OH GREAT, WE CAN GO FOR XIAOLONG BAOS TOGETHER!'? SORRAY horrr, I don't think so... going back on your religion is never a good idea even though you seem like you are compromising. Well...kind of, not really though.
To be honest, if I was dating an Ang Moh and he told his family and friends 'Don't worry she doesn't look THAT Chinese', I would be seriously mad. What?!? Am I not good enough? Are you ASHAMED OF ME? Yeah, try putting yourself in the other pair of shoes, and you will understand it more.
What's the point am I trying to make here? Honestly, no idea. I attribute it to a very warm week, with no food in the fridge, thus resorting to 30c maggi mee and stealing the roommate's eggs. He just came back and I certainly hope he's not in the mood for an omelette or something...